When a friend approaches us and whispers, “Can we talk?” we instantly recognize the weight of that moment.
They are not simply asking for a chat – they are entrusting us with a piece of their lives. Confidentiality is the golden promise that this trust will not be broken. We know that many students worry about their struggles being exposed.
That is why we make a firm promise: what is shared stays between us. Without this assurance, few would open up and peer counselling would be silenced by fear. Yet, maintaining confidentiality is not easy.
Every day, we are tested in maturity and responsibility. Friends may tease us, saying, “You must know everyone’s secrets.” And yes, the weight of these entrusted stories can be heavy. But we remind ourselves: this is not about us – this is about those who trust us.
HOW WE MAINTAIN CONFIDENTIALITY
As peer counsellors, listening respectfully is our first duty. We avoid taking notes in public, and if we must keep records, they are stored safely and securely. When others try to push to push us to reveal what was said during a session, we resist the temptation.
Sometimes we just smile and say nothing. This self-discipline is the very heart of peer counselling. When reporting to supervisors or seeking help guidance from adults, we use neutral language – saying a “a student “instead of mentioning names. This protects our peers allowing us to seek support when needed.
THE LIMITS OF CONFIDENTIALITY
Confidentiality doesn’t mean secrecy at all costs. It means protecting trust while safeguarding life
If a student expresses intentions of self-harm, or of harming others, we cannot keep silent. In such cases, we explain to our peers why disclosure is necessary and immediately inform the right authorities. Protecting lives must always come first.
THE LESSON BEHIND THE TRUST
Peer counselling has taught us that supporting others is not just about giving advice – it is about maturity, responsibility and empathy.
We may not have all the answers, but we can always provide a steady listening ear and guard what is shared with us, unless someone’s safety is at risk. To all students reading this: remember, it is better to empty the bucket before it spills
Your secrets are safe with us – as long as they do not endanger your life or the lives of others. We also extend our gratitude to Madam Charlotte, our senior school counsellor, mentor and mother figure, for guiding us in this.
The authors are peer educators and student writers at Kitebi Senior Secondary school.
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