Nollywood actress Teniola Aladese has advised women to live independently before getting married, emphasizing that self-reliance can better prepare them for marital life.
Speaking on the That’s What She Said vodcast, Aladese said many women move directly from their parents’ homes into their husband’s homes without fully understanding themselves or their partners, which can lead to unexpected challenges.
“A lot of women just go from their family’s houses to their husband’s house. But they don’t particularly know what they like, they don’t know what kind of trait their husband-to-be has. So they are shocked when they enter into the home and they see some mannerisms that they haven’t experienced before,” she explained.
Aladese added that living alone before marriage allows women to discover their personal preferences, boundaries, and tolerance levels. “When you live alone before getting married, you get to know yourself, you get to know what you like, you get to know the nonsense you would take and the nonsense you would not take,” she said.
She warned that skipping this step often results in surprises and regrets once married. “But when you just enter into marriage without any experience of living on your own, that is when everything start shocking you and regrets creep in,” Aladese concluded.
Her comments highlight the importance of independence and self-awareness as crucial foundations for a healthy and fulfilling marriage.
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