Afrobeats star Tems has opened up about her views on marriage, stressing that lasting relationships should be built on growth, accountability, and shared values rather than emotions alone.
Speaking in an interview with media personality Angie Martinez, the singer highlighted the importance of having a partner who is accountable to a higher principle, noting that it strengthens commitment in a relationship.
According to Tems, marriage goes beyond romantic feelings and should be seen as a process that helps individuals evolve and become better versions of themselves.
“Why would you truly love me if you don’t have anyone that you answer to? If you’re not accountable to anyone, how could you choose to love and keep loving me for the rest of our lives?” she said.
She questioned the sustainability of relationships where one partner lacks a sense of accountability, suggesting that such dynamics could make long-term commitment uncertain.
“If you’re the god of your life, why would you love me forever? You could just discard me anytime you want,” she added.
The Grammy-winning artist further described marriage as a transformative journey that tests compatibility and resilience, especially during challenging moments.
“Marriage is something that makes you better as a human being. It shouldn’t be about only love; it’s about compatibility… it’s supposed to bring out the hard times,” she said.
Her remarks add to ongoing conversations about modern relationships, where values such as personal growth and emotional maturity are increasingly prioritised alongside love.
