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A few months ago, Pastor Michael Kimuli of Christian Discipleship Ministries International (CDMI) in Kololo lost his wife Sarah quite suddenly, and I just love how he is handling his season of mourning.
He is speaking marital and sexual truth from the pulpit. See, it was a loud whisper in Christian circles that the Kimulis had a strong, 30-year-old and loving marriage. It showed in how they were with each other, spoke about each other, even looked at each other.
They were inseparable, until death did the unthinkable. And now Michael Kimuli, the lead pastor of CDMI, is on a roll! I have seen several clips of him at different pulpits, using his wife and the marriage they had to advise couples on sex and marriage.
Maybe it is his way of handling the grief and honouring Sarah Kimuli’s memory; whatever it is, kudos! Christians need to hear more about sex from their spiritual leaders, because increasingly, the fervent prayers in church are for God to grant the faithful marriages/ weddings but, after that, it is story after story of regret and frustration that abound.
It is funny; it is like couples no longer look further than the wedding glamour these days. The marriage itself seems to catch them off-guard. In one of the videos, Kimuli talks about looking good for each other, respecting date night, not being married to the church/congregation – so much so that your wife and children even refer to you as musumba/mulokole at home!
I remember how Pastor Benny Hinn once joked that many people believe he even goes to sleep in those cream suits he wears at crusades. For him it was a joke but, the truth is, many ministers of God fail to shed their church persona when they get home, making very boring and detached spouses.
Kimuli talked about the incessant fasting most born-again ministers carry out that often comes with an automatic freeze on all sexual activity as they seek to consecrate themselves deeper.
“My wife was aware. If in the middle of our fasting I became thirsty for her, there were no buts; we would pause the fast, make love, then continue. Do not quietly burn and send your spouse into temptation, simply because you’re fasting!”
“Also, don’t wear yourself out to bare bones through prayer and fasting, until you are too frail to make love to your wife, or too bony to be cuddled by your husband in bed!”
Yessss! I was hooraying out loud as I watched the several clips on TikTok. Kimuli spoke about how all Sundays were for him to take his family out to lunch, and later – and his children knew this – he could opt to spend the night at a hotel with his wife as the children returned home.
“I am so glad I never compromised on those things!”
He said he spent lavishly on his late wife’s makeup, clothes, whatever she wanted, because she also spared no excesses when it came to pampering him at home. He chided the congregation: “Come on; Shs 50,000 does not build a house! Treat your wife!”
Truth is, a wife may disregard what her ssenga tells her about marriage, but she will follow what her pastor says about the same, to the dot. So, if only the spiritual leaders learnt to use this God-given authority strategically, they would be fixing ten marriages at a time.
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