Relationship coach and lead pastor of David’s Christian Centre, Kingsley Okonkwo, has advised men to raise their standards in relationships and avoid marrying women who depend entirely on them financially.
Okonkwo shared his views in a series of posts on social media, where he addressed what he described as a growing reluctance among men to consider marriage.
According to the pastor, many men now see marriage as a financial burden rather than a partnership, a situation he believes is linked to the expectation that men must carry all financial responsibilities in relationships.
“Men, it’s high time we start having standards as well,” he wrote. “You guys are too used to women who are liabilities. That’s why fewer men desire marriage—they see it as a burden.”
He encouraged men to prioritise financially independent partners, arguing that such expectations could encourage more women to develop careers and contribute meaningfully to relationships.
“Men should also set standards that they won’t marry broke women, that they want a partner and not a dependent,” he said.
Okonkwo further described the current expectation that men should be the sole providers in marriage as both “unbiblical” and harmful to society.
“The current system is not only unbiblical but also damaging society. Women insist on rich men, and I think men should also insist on working women who will contribute,” he added.
The pastor also criticised men who deliberately seek out vulnerable or financially dependent partners, suggesting that such behaviour often stems from a desire for control.
According to him, relationships built on dependency can harm both partners and limit personal growth.
“All humans have value and abilities; let them develop it,” he said, urging men to prioritise balanced partnerships over financial dominance.
Okonkwo’s comments have added to ongoing discussions about financial expectations, gender roles, and partnership dynamics in modern relationships.
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