Nollywood actress and entrepreneur Didi Ekanem has advised young women to prioritise financial independence and personal development before considering marriage.
The Akwa Ibom-born film star shared her views while discussing the pressures many women face to settle down early, warning that neglecting self-development in pursuit of marriage can leave women vulnerable.
According to her, the years following graduation should be dedicated to building financial stability, emotional maturity and personal confidence.
“A lot of men are stingy, especially in this generation,” she said. “You do yourself a disservice if you spend the years meant for building yourself—financially, mentally and emotionally—simply chasing marriage.”
Focus on Growth After Graduation
Ekanem encouraged young women, particularly those in their mid-twenties, to treat that stage of life as an opportunity for self-discovery and economic empowerment.
She argued that while marriage can be fulfilling, it should not be viewed as a life achievement or the ultimate goal after completing education.
“As a woman, the best gift to give yourself after graduation is not a husband, it is power,” she said. “Marriage is beautiful, but it is not an achievement badge.”
The actress stressed the importance of building one’s identity, career, skills and financial resources before committing to a lifelong partnership.
Why She Believes She’s Ready for Marriage Now
Reflecting on her personal journey, Ekanem said she now feels prepared for marriage because she has spent time strengthening her independence and stability.
She admitted that if she had married earlier—during her mid-twenties or even before turning 30—she might not have been ready for the realities of married life.
According to her, entering a relationship after establishing personal stability allows a woman to approach marriage as a partnership rather than a means of survival.
“If my husband is not able to do certain things for me, I can do them for myself. That brings a different kind of peace,” she explained.
Advice to Women Considering Marriage
Ekanem concluded by encouraging women to ensure they have built their own identity and resources before entering marriage.
She said empowerment does not prevent a woman from maintaining a loving relationship but instead strengthens it when the right partner comes along.
“Before you step into marriage, make sure you have your own,” she added. “You don’t want to walk into a man’s house and become a piece of furniture.”
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